Page from “Don’t Shoot the Dog: The New Art of Teaching and Training” by Karen Pryor in which she describes the way variable reinforcement is used in abusive relationships.
So basically next time somebody asks “why doesn’t s/he just leave” have them read this v important thing xx
Sure, I’m sad, but I’m not looking to soothe that sadness by replacing it with a new relationship. Women are allowed to be sad, and they’re allowed to be single, and they don’t need to hear that one day a man is going to make it all go away by telling her she is good enough again. She’s good enough as she is.